Volume 47, Number 11 - February 2, 2010


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Men cheat more than women

By Danyelle Carter
danyelle.carter001@mymdc.net

Men cheat more than women.

No, there is no evidence to support my theory with numerical data; my evidence is simply the cries from women and the gloating of men when asked about their relationships.

Besides, men who cheat are rarely discrete. They never remember to delete the text messages to the other women stating where to meet up, asking what she is wearing or when can they hook up again.

Maybe I’m delusional.

I asked a group of nine students: four males, five females, who they taught cheated more. Seven of the nine students stated men cheat more.

"I think men cheat more because there isn’t an attachment with the other woman, no responsibility, no commitment, no worries,” said Brigitte Diamanche, 20, biology major. “He wants to have his cake, and eat it too."

Men don’t ask questions. Men don’t put into perspective their future, nor weigh the consequences. They choose his pleasure over a women’s pain.

I dated a guy, who at the beginning was prince charming (or so I thought). It wasn’t long before the good morning text messages began to fade, the walks to class became the “I have to study, but I’m going to text you when I’m done” excuse. And when I asked to see him after work, he was always too tired.

I began to feel that something was wrong, but I couldn't put my finger on it. I thought I was being paranoid. So, I decided to ask a friend for help.

My boyfriend would constantly minimize his Myspace page when I walked into the computer courtyard, so I decided to have a friend of mine from another campus add him. She began talking to him weekly.

He bragged about how "large" he was and how he would treat her right, but the most painful thing was he claimed to be single. That was the trigger that made me finally get out of the relationship.

I printed the Myspace messages and set up a meet date at my friend’s campus to expose him. Once they sat down, I showed up and his face nearly rearranged out of shock.

My friend got up, stood next to me and then we presented him with the evidence. He later tried to explain his actions by saying he was under so much stress and the flirting was just something to distract him.

Point blank, men have excuses for everything.

Why are you late? The elevator got stuck. Where were you? My aunt needed a ride to the clinic. Why didn’t you call me?  The car broke down.

“That’s just what men do as often as we can. Whenever the opportunity is given to us, we take it, like an ant to a fallen crumb,” said Jayme Carter, 20.

“The guilt isn’t the hard part, it’s making her believe the lie. ‘Babe, you know I work later on weekends.’ No, actually It’s because I’m with another woman,” Carter bluntly stated.

You'll have to evaluate these accusations for yourself, but if your gut keeps insisting that something is wrong, don't let him make you doubt yourself.  At the very least, vow to keep your eyes open, even if you are the only one who knows that you are doing it.

Any guilt that a man has after sex isn’t about the sex itself, it's about the consequences, Will she be a stalker? Will my girlfriend find out? There is no concern for the girlfriend, why would there be if he already cheated.

“Once a man has seen a woman naked several times, it becomes a commonplace. It doesn't matter if you're Jessica Alba or Tyra Banks, men become accustomed to that body and want to experience something different- different lips, different body types,” said Elvis Curling, 22, a pharmacy major. “That's just the way it is, we need another woman while we have a main girlfriend."

 


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